Today, July 18, 2012 is our 3rd year wedding anniversary but we have been friends, lover, enemy, best of friends, a brother and a sister to each other, guiding light, disciplinarian, partner in crime, boyfriend, ex-boyfriend and now, for 3 years, my husband.
Many doesn't know that my parents are both not positive about having a relationship with Dave, Kerwin, Bebsmer, Bbboi, Berdin and BB to me because of so many reasons that I don't wish to enumerate. BUT, they were more than ++++ positive to make him marry me or the other way around. Of course, the norms are changing as we are adapting the liberated type of society and most couple that accidentally got pregnant does not opt for marriage as a solution or the next option. Unfortunately, we are not one of them. My father had a great traditional factors etched in him that is why, he was the one who forced (?) for this marriage. Yes, we did got married 2 days after my mom's birthday. It wasn't well thought of, as for me and BB because we both know that we are not mature enough to undertake this new stage of marriage, of being husband and wife and being a legit mother and father to our son. We were both not ready for marriage and that is the truth. At that time, we were still adjusting in the new situation, new environment, new person added to our lives - Kael, and getting married is not on our list of options. He was still studying and I went back to school after I got pregnant. For me, marriage was not the answer but Papang didn't care. He gave an ultimatum that BB will not be welcome anymore in our house if he will not marry me. So, it was decided. Mama Berds and Papa Berds were also not ready for this idea but the both of them was the ones who took care of all the preparation needed for us to get married. Bb and I were just like paper dolls that went on through the process half-heartedly. We both know that we cannot support the family in the situation that we are both in, we are undergrads which means we still cannot find a job that will feed all of us. But Mama Berds and Papa Berds took care of it all. Not to mention that at that time, Ate Kate and Kuya Ading were also supporting the finances needed for this marriage. OH! I just owe you all a lot.
I could never be grateful enough for those who had helped and continues to help us in all our endeavors and undertakings. We cannot do it without your guidance, love, support, wisdom and prayers. Yesterday, I was not able to fall asleep because maybe I was too excited for this day to come. I am so happy - more than happy actually for everything. This relationship is founded by God's grace and has been blessed throughout the years. We may not come from a perfect family, perfect life with perfect attitude and behavior towards life but we have been perfectly made for each other which makes me a living testament that this is all real. Life may not be good to you but you can turn things to the way you want it to be.
This love has been the guiding light of our lives. This love has brought us to different emotions which made us and has broken us but I never regret the day that I met you, the day that you caught my eye and the day that I have known you and said to myself that this person needs me in his life. Only to find out that I needed him more than he needed me.
Today, as we commemorate this glorious day, I can remember the time of our lives when we were on the verge of our relationship and we almost lost faith in each other.
We have been married for more than 3 years, in our thoughts, in our hearts, in our minds and in our soul. We have promised to each other to spend the rest of our lives together in each other's arms. Unofficially, we were married almost 7 years ago but we received the blessings of God and the church union on that fateful day. Long before the marriage is our promise to each other of always becoming the better half. The wedding is just an added bonus. Thank you Lord for everything. We could have not done it without you. Everything we owe it to you. We promise to love each other, understand each other and respect each other the best that we could.
And to you my ever dearest loving husband, for being there for me all the time. I once thought that material things are precious gifts that should be given to each other when celebrating special days with each other but NO, these are all material and will fade away in due time and yet, LOVE is ETERNAL. What's the use of having material things if you do not have someone to share it with, and you don't have someone that will be true to you and love you for who you are? Thank you for being the best person and for being able to stand by me through the storm and through the happiest times in our lives.
Happy 3rd Wedding Anniversary!
